Success Stories > Dealing with time wasters
By Dorianne Sager
Encountering time wasters, cheaters and the just plain weird while dating is not
exclusive to the Internet. It just means you will be exposed to a larger pool
of them than you might meet in one evening at a singles bar.
But weeding out potential future mates from the potential future inmates is all
part of the dating process - both in the real world and in the virtual one.
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If a potential date won't offer a photo, even after prolonged correspondence,
chances are they are not who they claim to be, and they definitely don't look
like who they claim to be. Relationships thrive on honest communication and
acceptance; if you can't see who you're talking to, walk away.
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Abusive or threatening language is never acceptable. Refuse to engage anyone in
this kind of behaviour. Block all messages from the offending person, and, if
necessary, report them to the site's webmaster who will monitor their messages
and remove them from the site if the abuse continues.
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Never trust anyone who attempts to wrangle financial assistance from you for
any type of emergency before you have developed a trusting offline
relationship. The only thing you'll be kissing is your money - goodbye.
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Form emails are fine if you're describing a recent vacation to friends and
family and want to save time - it's not appropriate when dating. If it's
obvious that you have received a form email, it means the other person is mass
dating, throwing out the net for multiple catches. If a person can't be
bothered to read your profile and make some attempt to respond to the
information contained within, they are wasting your time. Move on.
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All relationships must move forward in order to survive. If, after a reasonable
amount of time, your email partner is not interested in talking over the phone
or meeting in person, it likely means they are already involved or are
stringing you along. Don't invest any more time on someone who doesn't intend
to invest the time in you.
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Saying that, watch out for people who seem to have become too involved in the
relationship too quickly. If talk of marriage, children and serious commitment
after a few emails doesn't scare you off it should. You don't need to be a
celebrity to have a stalker.
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